What a great start to our new EXPOSED! series! We hope that you had a great conversation with your student after this weekend, where they learned how to date with a Godly goal in mind. This weekend, we continue discussing what God has to say about our sexuality and how to ensure that they can experience love and intimacy in marriage by choosing to pursue purity now! We will expose the lies that the world is telling your students about love and sex, and replace them with the truth from God's word.
Here are the main points and verses that we will be discussing this weekend (4.6), so that you can be prepared ahead of time to have meaningful conversations with your student about what they are learning. Please let us know if there is anything else that we can assist you with to help you connect and discuss this topic with your student.
EXPOSED! [the naked truth about sex and dating]
week.2 - ...so it's kind of a big deal
Often times our perspective on certain things becomes warped or confused because we find ourselves being influenced by so many things, and they all seem to say different things and drive us in different directions. The magazines we read, the stores we shop at, our friends at school, the music we listen and almost everything else around us tries to influence us to think about sex in one way or another.
"Just loose 10 pounds and you will be more attractive.'" "If you have this shirt you will be more sexy." "The opposite sex will want you if you are this way or that way," they all try to tell us. Because of their influence, sex has become a dirty word, a taboo topic that you only talk about if you are immature or perverted. However, God has a lot to say about sex in the Bible, because, well... it was HIS IDEA! God was the one who created it! And He says that it is good. Not just good, but if used in the way He designed it, He says it is even Worship! Sex is wonderfully mysterious, amazing and yet can be totally confusing, frustrating and leave us feeling empty if it is abused. Because our culture is so saturated with sexual images and ideas, the mystery of sex is cheapened and destroyed so:
The world around us says, “Sex is NO BIG DEAL!”
BUT
God tells us, “Sex is a PRICELESS GIFT!”
We are all born sexual, from the moment we enter life on this planet, we are determined by our sexuality. "It's a girl!" So our sexuality is not something to be ashamed of or shy away from, but is something to celebrate, understand and embrace.
Ezekiel 18:25, 27:
"'Do I hear you saying, 'That's not fair! God's not fair!'? 'Listen, Israel. I'm not fair? You're the ones who aren't fair! Look around you, don't you see what's happening? Do you see how you are treating people?'"
In this passage, God is asking us to look at our world, at our actions and at our decisions from His perspective. Instead of just whining and complaining that we don't like what He tells us, which is what we usually do, He wants us to think about WHY He might have told us how and why to wait for sex. As we look at sex from God's perspective, we can see why we might want to put up some boundaries and limits about how it is to be used. Think about it, everything that is cool, everything that we look forward to, those milestones in life, come will higher risk and add more limits to our life. You get your driver's license, so you get to drive, but you have to obey the speed limit and wear a seatbelt. You move out, and you get to set your own social schedule, but you have to get a job to financially support that social life. You want to go to Big Stuf summer camp, but you have to remember to put on your own sunscreen instead of depending on your mommy, otherwise you look like a pomegranate after only the first 3 days in Florida. Everything good in life comes with higher risk and higher reward, and sex is no different. If we truly want to enjoy sex the way God designed us to, we need to listen to His insight about how it is to be used, because those "limits" are there for our protection because He loves us. The reality is, if we begin to look at sex from God's perspective, everything that He says about it, will make total sense.
If we SEE as God sees, we will DO as God says.
Song of Solomon 8:3-4:
“Imagine! His left hand cradling my head, his right arm around my waist! Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem: Don't excite love, don't stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you're ready.”
This verse encouraged us to see the beauty of sex as something worth waiting for. Students have to understand both the beautiful, incredible experience that God desires us to have when it comes to sex, and the consequences that come from misusing something so powerful, in order to understand the motivation to save sex for a committed marriage relationship.
God invented SEX and He is the one who knows how to make it the BEST EVER!
1 Corinthians 13:4-7:
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
These verses describes to boundless reach of love and paints us a picture of what love looks like in a relationship. Love is not described as a feeling or an emotion, but as adjectives and verbs within the contexts of relationship. Love define what we do, not how we feel, and sex is God's idea of the perfect picture of LOVE. It is the physical union that represents the connection between two people that can only be achieved through a healthy, God-driven marriage. It represents, trust, vulnerability, passion, sacrifice, patience and joy.
Sex WITHIN MARRIAGE is the most complete picture of LOVE there is.
Matthew 19:4-5:
Jesus said “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’ And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one."
Jesus tells us that God decided from the beginning to make us sexual beings, with the capacity to enjoy sex. However, He knows how powerful it is, and He loves us enough to trust us with it, but gives us a "Users Manual" for our protection. If sex was just skin-on-skin, then it wouldn't matter how we used it, but sex encapsulates the entirety of our person, so it really is much, much bigger than we might have previously imagined.
God’s plan for sex is to unite two people’s:
MIND HEART BODY SPIRIT
ONE LAST THOUGHT:
Sex is meant to CONNECT two people FOR LIFE, so… it’s Kind of a Big Deal!
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