Friday, February 27, 2009

30 Hour Famine Postponed!

Hey everyone! Just wanted to let you know that the 30 Hour Famine has been postponed until Spring in order to allow more people to get involved in the experience. So if your student has been raising money,tell them to keep up the good work, and if they haven't gotten involved yet, be sure they pick up a packet this weekend from the Habit Shack! Look forward to more details to be announced soon! For more information please feel free to email students@pointofgrace.com and we will get back to you!

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Sex Series Parent Preview (week.1)

This weekend we start our new series's on sexual purity and dating. In this series we want your students to learn about God's great plan for sex in their lives and how they can make good choices now, about when and who to date, setting boundaries and keeping promises, that will benefit them in the future and lead to a godly, satisfying and intimate marriage.

Here are the main points and verses that we will be discussing this weekend (3.1), so that you can be prepared ahead of time to have meaningful conversations with your student about what they are learning. Please let us know if there is anything else that we can assist you with to help you connect and discuss this topic with your student.


The Spark (6th-8th Grade):

Dating brings up a lot of questions in the minds of students. When can I start? Who should I go out with? What am I supposed to do? Why even date in the first place? Does God say anything about dating?

All of these are good questions to ask, but unfortunately the Bible says absolutely nothing about dating. Dating wasn't around in Biblical times so instead of trying to cram verses about marriage to fit into dating, we will take a look at the whole picture of God's view on love, relationships and gender to determine what the appropriate move on dating should be. But know that anything you ever hear about the "Bible's position on dating," is an opinion. (Even if Joshua Harris says otherwise.)

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”
Proverbs 4:23

Most people date to see what they can GET out of it.

Often when we first start to think about the idea of dating, our focus is on all the wrong things. We try to change who we are in order to fit into who we think the person we like, thinks they want. We dumb ourselves down, or change what we think or what we like in order to get a boyfriend or girlfriend, rather that remain faithful to who God made us to be and waiting for someone to like us for who we are. The pressure to date early on, is mostly to fulfill social pressure or sexual urges, both of which can lead to trouble, whereas dating with an end in mind, the goal of preparing for a healthy marriage, can lead to fun, fulfilling and God-honoring relationships.

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for to harm you or keep things from you, but to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me.’”
Jeremiah 29:11-13

God wants the BEST for me and my FUTURE.

Dating can be a great experience that helps us become more selfless, learn to get along with people of the opposite sex, and help us discover what qualities we are looking for in a person to marry. However, statistics show that the earlier that you start dating the more likely you are to cross a boundary and sacrifice your purity. So, sometimes the best choice we can make to ensure our purity is to wait to date exclusively, until we are old enough to know what it means to really be in a relationship that has a goal of preparing for marriage.

Big Idea:
The goal of DATING is to learn who you ARE and who you want to BE WITH.




4ORTY 2WO (9th-12 Grade)
Week 1: Stop Looking for the Perfect Person.

We were designed with a desire for intimacy. That is a God-given desire. That desire for a deep connection with another person was invented by God (not the sappy love songs we listen to, or the movies we watch, or the author of Twilight)

Why is our experience of this in real life, often so different than what we see in the movies?

If we really knew what we were getting into with our dating, we probably wouldn’t…
- Sexual Mistakes, Confusion, Self-Doubt, Insecurity, Hurt, Getting Cheated-On, Rumors, etc.

If we were really HONEST the way most people date is practice for DIVORCE, instead of preparation for MARRIAGE.

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for to harm you or keep things from you, but to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me.’”
Jeremiah 29:11-13

We look at what we can get out of dating: as soon as someone cuter or smarter comes along… someone with less emotional baggage, or someone who is more popular, someone who can give us something that someone else couldn’t. Nobody ever actually says this out loud though…

In DATING we usually look for what we can GET out of it.

What’s worse is that most often we might even pretend we are something to someone because we think that’s what they want to get out of it, or we’ll dumb down part of who we are because it might intimidate the other person… We are afraid of being “too much” and at the same time “not enough.”

“Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church - a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ's love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They're really doing themselves a favor - since they're already 'one' in marriage.”
Ephesians 5:25-27

Any healthy dating relationship should add to the good things that are already in your life: your dreams, hobbies, interests, church friends/involvement, relationship with your family, etc. However, all too often, once someone gets in a dating relationship, everything else in their lives goes on the back burner. Friendships slip, family relationships get stressed, extra-curricular activities or hobbies disintegrate and soon couples are left with only themselves, which was never God's plan. Dating relationships have the potential to consume our lives, rather that enhance them, and God doesn't want anything to consume all of our attention and focus except for Him.

We EXPECT another person to meet a need that only GOD can fill.

Often when we first start to think about the idea of dating, our focus is on all the wrong things. We try to change who we are in order to fit into who we think the person we like, thinks they want. We dumb ourselves down, or change what we think or what we like in order to get a boyfriend or girlfriend, rather that remain faithful to who God made us to be and waiting for someone to like us for who we are. Or, even more dangerously, we try to "focus on God" while secretly hoping that the other person will take notice and fall in love with us too. This does not fool God and it hurts us because our focus is not on Him, or even on healing or growing our relationship with Him, but it's looking for approval only from another person. When we put our whole life on hold, or only seek approval from one place or person, we are setting ourselves up for a serious letdown.

“Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem: Don't excite love, don't stir it up, until the time is ripe - and you're ready.”
Song of Songs 8:4

BIG IDEA:
Instead of trying to find the PERFECT PERSON, focus on BECOMING the person God wants you to be.

[Please let us know if there is anything else that we can assist you with to help you connect and discuss this topic with your student. Feel free to email thoughts, comments or questions to students@pointofgrace.com and we will get back to you! Until next week...]

Sunday, February 22, 2009

Sex Series Parent Preview

Parents!
We are so glad that you are reading this! This is where you will see the message preview for each of the weeks we are doing our series on Dating and Sexual Purity. If you have a Junior High Student (6th-8th grade) you will want to look at the Birds & Bees message preview, because that is the series we are doing in the Spark. If you have a High School Student (9th-12th grade) you will want to look at the Uncensored message preview, because that is the series for 4ORTY 2WO. They messages are different for each series, so make sure that you read the correct one that your student will hear. We hope that this will help catalyze great conversations within your family around this awkward but incredibly important topic of sexuality and sexual purity.

Also we created a new blog for the students to express their thoughts on dating, sex, God and the message series in a social network format. Feel free to check it out, but PLEASE refrain from commenting on it, because we want it to be a true student forum. We want your awareness of this "sex-periment" to remain anonymous. The address to the new blog is http://mythoughtsaboutsex.blogspot.com
Look forward to the first message preview on Tuesday (February 24th)!

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Day 2 Wrap Up

Well we had an incredible 1st day on the slopes! Fresh snow made for very nice conditions, and everyone seemed to have fun. The Tubers got three hours of sliding and spinning down the hill, and skiiers and snowboarders of all levels enjoyed a full day of riding. Many students tried snowboarding for the first time, and we want to throw big shout outs to Jared, Sami, Nick Tavion and Austin for hitting it hard and making great progress on their first day up the slopes! Super proud of your students (girls and guys)! If you have any questions about anything, feel free to email students@pointofgrace.com and we will get back to you.

We another day at Afton Alps tomorrow before we pack up and head home around 3:00p, but for right now, its off to dinner! MMM, I'm feeling Chipotle....

Friday, February 20, 2009

We Made It!

Hello Parents!
If you are checking this blog for SNOWFEST 2009 updates, we want to let you know that we made it safely to the hotel. Due to the snowstorm, we made it a little later that we expected, but we arrived at 9:30p and got all the kids checked in. By now, most of them are having fun at the pool or making new friends in their rooms. It's already been a great trip and we are so glad that your student is with us!!

Look for more information as the weekend progresses. Also check here Sunday afternoon and evening to see updates as to our travel and estimated arrival time. If you do not see anything saying otherwise, our expected arrival time back at Point of Grace will be 9:00 pm.

Also, I wanted to extend an apology to you. We want you to know that we value your trust in us very highly and want you to know that our goal is to provide a very fun, as well as safe and wholesome environment for your student during all of our events. Unfortunately, tonight on the bus ride up, we were watching movies, and after High School Musical 3, we began Hancock. I did not remember that Hancock had a scene where the F-word was said, and so that scene was accidentally aired tonight in the bus. As soon as it happened, we ended the movie and changed it to Wall-E, but regrettably the word was already played. We know that for some of your students, they have already seen movies with that word in it, or may have even said it themselves, but I wanted to let you know that this occurrence did happen, and I wanted you to hear it from me first. This mistake was completely my fault, but I know that it reflects poorly on the entire Student Ministry team, and for that I take total responsibility and feel deeply sorry. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to email me at kurt@pointofgrace.com and again please accept my apology for this breech of your trust.

Kurt

Thursday, February 19, 2009

NO STUDENT SERVICES THIS WEEKEND! (2/22)

There will be no Student Ministry Services this weekend because we are going to be gone at SNOWFEST! So please have you student enjoy the morning services with you this weekend and we will be back next weekend (March 1st) for the beginning of our new series called "BIRDS & BEES" (for the Spark) or "UNCENSORED" (for 4ORTY 2WO).

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Vitals - February 15th

The Spark (Jr. High) - February 15th
Message - "ALL IN - Pamphlets on the Sidewalk (Lust)" by Kurt
Key Points:
When Jesus came to die for us, it wasn’t just to FORGIVE our sin, but to free us from the POWER of sin in our lives.
When we LUST, we risk our own FUTURE, and SOMEONE ELSE’S future.
Once we begin to disrespect PEOPLE with lust, we become less concerned about using others for our OWN ADVANTAGE.
God wants us to learn to LOVE OTHERS, and lust DESTROYS love.
Key Verses: Ephesians 4:18-19, Ephesians 5:3, 1 Thessalonians 4:4-5
Worship led by: Justin Willis and The Spark Band
Attendance:
Total: 114
1st Service: 33 (23 students, 10 leaders)
2nd Service: 91 (69 students, 12 leaders)

4ORTY 2WO (High School) - February 15th
Message - "ALL IN - Pamphlets on the Sidewalk (Lust)" by Kurt
Discussion Questions:
"What is a situation where you often find yourself being tempted to lust?"
"How do you think lust could damage your future? What about someone else's future?"
Key Points:
When Jesus came to die for us, it wasn’t just to FORGIVE our sin, but to free us from the POWER of sin in our lives.
When we LUST, we risk our own FUTURE, and SOMEONE ELSE’S future.
Once we begin to disrespect PEOPLE with lust, we become less concerned about using others for our OWN ADVANTAGE.
God wants us to learn to LOVE OTHERS, and lust DESTROYS love.
Key Verses: Ephesians 4:18-19, Ephesians 5:3, 1 Thessalonians 4:4-5
Worship led by: Justin Willis and Key To The City
Attendance: 61 (51 students, 10 leaders)

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Last Week to Sign Up for SNOWFEST 2009!


This weekend is the last chance your student has to sign up for SNOWFEST 2009! IT is only 2 weeks away and only costs $200 for the whole weekend, including transportation, life tickets for 2 days on the slopes, hotel, and food. If you would like your student to go, please pick up a sign up sheet at the Habit Shack in the Student Zone this weekend! Hope that your son or daughter can join us!! for more information feel free to email us at students@pointofgrace.com or call us at 515.987.9595 ext. 116.

Vitals - February 8th

The Spark (Jr. High) - February 1st
Message - "ALL IN - Party at The Palms (Drinking/Partying)" by Kurt
Key Points:
Whenever we are TEMPTED, we must realize that there is always MORE at risk than we think.
We must develop CONFIDENCE in God and let that affect our DECISIONS.
God doesn't want us to give up CONTROL of our lives to anything other than HIM.
My ability to WITHSTAND temptation has everything to do with my CONFIDENCE in God.
Key Verses: 1 Corinthians 10:12-13, Matthew 4:1-14, Ephesians 5:18, Romans 6:14
Worship led by: Justin Willis and The Spark Band
Attendance:
Total: 117
1st Service: 47 (37 students, 10 leaders)
2nd Service: 80 (68 students, 12 leaders)

4ORTY 2WO (High School) - February 1st
Message - "ALL IN - Party at The Palms (Drinking/Partying)" by Kurt
Discussion Questions:
"What do you think the Bible says about drinking or partying?"
"When you are feeling tempted, what do you usually do in that situation?"
Key Points:
Whenever we are TEMPTED, we must realize that there is always MORE at risk than we think.
We must develop CONFIDENCE in God and let that affect our DECISIONS.
God doesn't want us to give up CONTROL of our lives to anything other than HIM.
My ability to WITHSTAND temptation has everything to do with my CONFIDENCE in God.
Key Verses: 1 Corinthians 10:12-13, Matthew 4:1-14, Ephesians 5:18, Romans 6:14
Worship led by: Justin Willis and Key To The City
Attendance: 59 (49 students, 10 leaders)

Thursday, February 05, 2009

Chick Night - THIS FRIDAY!

If you have a daughter....DO NOT LET HER MISS CHICK NIGHT!

This is one of the premier events for girls in the DSM area each year. This Friday, February 6th from 7pm until 8am on Saturday, February 7th. This overnight event is filled with fun, food, games, friends, prizes and tons of memories that will enable your daughter to build friendships that are critical during this time in her life. The goal of this night is to help girls to develop a positive self image as well as learn the value of partnering with other girls as friends, rather than seeing them as competition. We do this through conversation, door prizes, videos and great student a leader interaction. It's a great night and you do not want your daughter to miss it!

For more information call Katie at 515.987.9595 ext. 122 or email her at Katie@pointofgrace.com

*Chick*Night*
February 6-7th, 2009
7:00p - 8:00a
$10.00 and a permission slip due at check in...
First time guests get in for free!

Vitals - February 1st

The Spark (Jr. High) - February 1st
Message - "ALL IN - Counting Your Losses (Self Harm)" by Katie
Key Points:
Go doesn't make MISTAKES, and we are His most TREASURED CREATION.
Our BROKENNESS comes from not seeing OURSELVES the way God does.
God NEVER wastes a HURT.
Go wants to use even the most PAINFUL parts of our life to draw us CLOSER to Him.
Key Verses: Galatians 5:25-26, Psalms 139:13-14, Isaiah 55:8-9, James 4:8
Worship led by: Justin Willis and The Spark Band
Attendance:
Total: 118
1st Service: 42 (33 students, 9 leaders)
2nd Service: 85 (73 students, 12 leaders)

4ORTY 2WO (High School) - February 1st
Message - "ALL IN - Counting Your Losses (Self Harm)" by Katie
Discussion Questions:
"Who or what influences your thinking about yourself the most?"
"What is a painful situation that you have gone through that you didn't understand the purpose of, until after it was over?"
Key Points:
Go doesn't make MISTAKES, and we are His most TREASURED CREATION.
Our BROKENNESS comes from not seeing OURSELVES the way God does.
God NEVER wastes a HURT.
Go wants to use even the most PAINFUL parts of our life to draw us CLOSER to Him.
Key Verses: Galatians 5:25-26, Psalms 139:13-14, Isaiah 55:8-9, James 4:8
Worship led by: Justin Willis and Key To The City
Attendance: 44 (33 students, 11 leaders)