The Spark (6th-8th Grade)
Week.2: What's All The Buzz About?
Often times our perspective on certain things becomes warped or confused because we find ourselves being influenced by so many things, and they all seem to say different things and drive us in different directions. The magazines we read, the stores we shop at, our friends at school, the music we listen and almost everything else around us tries to influence us to think about sex in one way or another. It’s sometime hard for students to know what God says about sex, because all too often, churches aren’t talking about it, but everyone else is.
All the BUZZ about sex causes us to be UNSURE about what God thinks.
It’s would be easy to know what God thinks if He was the only one talking…
“God said, ‘It's not good for the Man to be alone; I'll make him a companion.’… This is why a man leaves his father and mother and embraces his wife. They become one flesh. The two of them, the Man and his Wife, were naked, but they felt no shame.”
Gen. 2:18, 24-25
God INVENTED sex, and He tell us the TRUTH about it.
God decided from the beginning to make us sexual beings, with the capacity to enjoy sex. However, He knows how powerful it is, and He loves us enough to trust us with it, but gives us a "Users Manual" for our protection.
“There's more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, ‘The two become one.’ Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never ‘become one.’”
1 Corinthians 6:16-17
Students have to understand both the beautiful, incredible experience that God desires us to have when it comes to sex, and the consequences that come from misusing something so powerful, in order to understand the motivation to save sex for a committed marriage relationship.
God’s plan is for sex to be ENJOYED in marriage.
Big Idea:
PURITY paves the way to INTIMACY.
4ORTY 2WO (9th-12 Grade)
Week.2: Best Sex Ever!
"Just loose 10 pounds and you will be more attractive.'" "If you have this shirt you will be more sexy." "The opposite sex will want you if you are this way or that way," they all try to tell us. Because of their influence, sex has become a dirty word, a taboo topic that you only talk about if you are immature or perverted. However, God has a lot to say about sex in the Bible, because, well... it was HIS IDEA! God was the one who created it! And He says that it is good. Not just good, but if used in the way He designed it, He says it is even Worship! Sex is wonderfully mysterious, amazing and yet can be totally confusing, frustrating and leave us feeling empty if it is abused. Because our culture is so saturated with sexual images and ideas, the mystery of sex is cheapened and destroyed.
“There's more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, ‘The two become one.’ Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never ‘become one.’”
1 Corinthians 6:16-17
The world says that sex is just PHYSICAL, but in fact it is also EMOTIONAL and SPIRITUAL.
Instead of just whining and complaining that we don't like what He tells us, which is what we usually do, God wants us to think about WHY He might have told us how and why to wait for sex. As we look at sex from God's perspective, we can see why we might want to put up some boundaries and limits about how it is to be used. Think about it, everything that is cool, everything that we look forward to, those milestones in life, come with higher risk and add more limits to our life. You get your driver's license, so you get to drive, but you have to obey the speed limit and wear a seatbelt. You move out, and you get to set your own social schedule, but you have to get a job to financially support that social life. Everything good in life comes with higher risk and higher reward, and sex is no different. If we truly want to enjoy sex the way God designed us to, we need to listen to His insight about how it is to be used, because those "limits" are there for our protection because He loves us. The reality is, if we begin to look at sex from God's perspective, everything that He says about it, will make total sense.
“There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for ‘becoming one’ with another. Or didn't you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don't you see that you can't live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.”
1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Sex starts between the EARS, way before it’s ever between the LEGS.
God's design for sex completely contradicts the world's persuasion about sex. The world tells us that great sex is sex without boundaries or inhibitions. This encouragement is actually counter-productive to good sex. Most high school students that have sex regret their decision and wish they would have waited. Based on the latest scientific research, the brain actually reacts completely differently regarding sex, and the hormones it produces when sex is within a committed relationship where there is little fear, embarrassment or shame of rejection. This is amazing, because new scientific research is actually saying what God has said all along: That sex is the best within a committed marriage. This is why it is so important for students to make decisions about sex before they are in the position to have act out their decision to have sex, or remain pure.
“God said, ‘It's not good for the Man to be alone; I'll make him a companion.’… This is why a man leaves his father and mother and embraces his wife. They become one flesh. The two of them, the Man and his Wife, were naked, but they felt no shame.”
Gen. 2:18, 24-25
God’s desire is for you to have the BEST SEX EVER and He knows that only happens when there is NO SHAME.
God’s design for sex was that we could be naked with each other and feel no shame… Adam and Eve in the garden, God was still at the center of their relationship, they had nothing to compare to, they didn’t have the burden of past mistakes, no regrets, they did not feel self conscious at all, didn’t worry about adding up to pressures they saw around them…they could simply give themselves to each other completely, beautifully and wholly; out of pure love.
Big Idea:
PURITY paves the way to INTIMACY.
[Please let us know if there is anything else that we can assist you with to help you connect and discuss this topic with your student. Feel free to email thoughts, comments or questions to students@pointofgrace.com and we will get back to you! Until next week...]
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